Sunday, January 20, 2008

Our generation sucks! We have way more technology & more avenues to gain knowledge, than did our ancestors; yet we act more stupid than ever before. What I'm talking about is relationships, especially marriage. "What God has brought together, let no man put a sunder." Did you hear me? What GOD has brought together...

I'll bet you 70-80% of people my age have no idea what that means. I hear people trying to challenge this verse all the time. "Well what if people got married for the wrong reason?" Once again - READ THE 1ST PART! What GOD has brought together?

Do you honestly think that your marriage going through hard times is not in God's plan? You know, some may even say that when people get a divorce, it's because God's plan was rejected or was never present. I believe most of the divorces that occur today are because God's plan was rejected. Everybody wants the easy way out!

"I'm not getting what I want!" - Divorce
"I just don't feel the same anymore." - Divorce
"It's just not going to work." - Divorce

How about "Get off your ass & do some work for a change?"
One of the best quotes I've ever heard was - "When things are down, look up!" - meaning get on your knees, pray, and look to God to get you out of these "hard times."

And our modern mind DOES find marriage for any other reason than Love to be offensive. So it stands to reason that when love dies, we will seek to leave our current mate and find another person who will give us love, will make us happy. We forget the other benefits of marriage – loyalty, partnership, help and assistance, the fence which can keep us from sexual temptations, and the birth and nurturance of the next generation.

Our happiness becomes the pinnacle by which we measure all else in life. It becomes our entitlement, and all else falls by the wayside as we struggle to attain it.

But happiness ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. If you attain happiness, yet don’t have anyone to share it with – are you really happy? Will you stay happy for long?

A person can be in the middle of unhappy circumstances, but still have abiding peace and joy within – because they have made the better choice. They can have joy because they still have and give love, because they are giving their children a solid foundation and a good example. They send the message – “I’m in this for the long haul. I’m not going to leave you.”

Often, because of faithfulness on the part of one - the unhappy marriage can become a very happy marriage, one that does bring much fulfillment. The key here, too, is to get ourselves out of our own eyes. It may take an acceptance that the relationship is not what we wanted, not what we hoped – but to see and to live like there is great potential for it to become much more than it is. It takes becoming the person we would like for our spouse to be. It takes loving him/her, or her, in spite of the difficulties, and sacrificing, and gently remaining as a faithful spouse even when we don’t receive what we want from the other person.

It takes prayer, for the Holy Spirit of God to draw our mate to Himself, to soften their heart toward us.

God’s Spirit is a much more powerful agent for change than anything we can do. We can have hope for fulfilling relationships through Him – not to bring about our own selfish pursuit of sublime happiness, but so that we might find contentment, peace, and abiding joy that comes from giving sacrificially to someone other than ourselves.

So what if you did marry the wrong person? - If you are a child of God, then that question really has no bearing – it is not an argument for divorce. I urge you to submit to one another, to love each other, to commit to making your marriage the best that it can be.

Stop trying to “pay each other back” for offenses levied; keep no record of wrongs. Just try to find ways that you can love the other person, and you might be amazed at the changes that will take place. - "God can make a way out of no way!"

Find friends or counselors who will build you up, who will walk with you through the necessary work. Don’t spend time with friends who are feeding your bad feelings toward your spouse - that is counter-productive. Stop seeking the measure of your worth from your relationship with your spouse, and seek it through your relationship with God.

- Unless you or your children are being abused, unless you are married to an unrepentant and continuing adulterer, you must do your best to work it out with your spouse. You must both become the “right” people for each other.

So get off your rear & on your knees, start praying for your spouse, and get it together - better yet, let God get it together!

Remember: "When things are down, look up!"

Why?

Why am I doing this?

2 words: Terrell Owens!

I like the attention he gets from women that DON'T even watch football :)

I want my wife to see me as "sexy."

I want that reaction that Abb Ansley's wife from the "Body of Work" video had - This woman knew her husband was working out, but didn't realize the progress he was making. One day after returning from the gym, he takes off his shirt & she has this "Oh my God!" look on her face! Like she saw her husband for the 1st time & wanted to jump on him right there!

I want to remove all doubt from the minds of other men. When they see me with my wife, I don't ever want the question "How did he snag her?" ever to come into their mind.

Lastly, knowing that there a 5 times more people that DON'T believe in me, than those that do - Being able to prove them wrong

- Success is the greatest revenge

Legs/Back/Plyometrics

I missedmy 6 AM workout, so after the kids are in bed; I'm doing Legs/Back/Plyometrics. I found out in previewung my DVD, that the Ab Ripper workout is at the end of the Legs workout.I missedmy 6 AM workout, so after the kids are in bed; I'm doing Legs/Back/Plyometrics. I found out in previewung my DVD, that the Ab Ripper workout is at the end of the Legs workout.

January 5, 2008

Today I did P90X Back & Biceps - I almost made it through the entire workout. There was only about 17 minutes left.